From time to time, all communities lose members to death and online communities are no exception. As dissemination of information becomes a common post-mortem ritual for surviving friends and family, the more we will see the effects of a death on the living members of online communities.
When an online community loses a member to death, it’s important to understand the different ways the loss of a member can affect a community and the best ways to support and manage that community as they recover from the trauma of loss.
It’s important to allow community members space to grieve, post memorials, make tributes and share memories of their lost friend. Never remove a profile because a member has died – you may decide to grant access to living members but do so at your own risk. Most of the time, living relatives can be trusted with access to a dead member’s account, and this may be especially appropriate if the community you work with is composed of real-life acquaintances of the deceased.
The profiles we leave behind when we die often become important sources of information for the living, especially in the immediate time after a death. Funeral arrangements, instructions for gifts and ways to help survivors of the deceased can all be spread, posted and shared through communities through the accounts of deceased members.
Depending on your community, it’s very often appropriate to publicly acknowledge the loss of a member. A brief social media post is generally right, but for highly visible community members, often a longer tribute is more appropriate.
A death in an online community is always sad, but handled well, it can strengthen the bonds between members and engender a company or platform to its users. Death affects us all in our lives and as life is increasingly lived online, we need to learn to accept, understand and deal with death in a new way.